The truth is that I'm very bad at predicting ahead of time what I'm in the mood. And, I'm much happier if I can do what I want to do at any given point in time. That might sound privileged, and maybe it is. However, I do think many people take a busy schedule for granted or even as a point of pride. Makes them feel important or something. I think people got it backwards and personally take an empty agenda as a point of pride. It means freedom.
Of course some things you do have to schedule and it's not always. Scheduling a dinner with a friend that lives far way? Of course! However, phone calls, meetings, and even joyful, social activities I prefer to schedule last-minute so we're sure it really is the thing everyone involved wants to do right then.
That said it's still a habit I'm actively cultivating. Most of society still lives a schedule-driven lifestyle and so it's often easier to agree to a pre-scheduled activity than do things in the moment. I still regularly agree to something scheduled way in advance because it doesn't feel real yet. I always regret it when the time finally comes. Getting better at it though!
Schedule as few things as possible.
The truth is that I'm very bad at predicting ahead of time what I'm in the mood. And, I'm much happier if I can do what I want to do at any given point in time. That might sound privileged, and maybe it is. However, I do think many people take a busy schedule for granted or even as a point of pride. Makes them feel important or something. I think people got it backwards and personally take an empty agenda as a point of pride. It means freedom.
Of course some things you do have to schedule and it's not always. Scheduling a dinner with a friend that lives far way? Of course! However, phone calls, meetings, and even joyful, social activities I prefer to schedule last-minute so we're sure it really is the thing everyone involved wants to do right then.
That said it's still a habit I'm actively cultivating. Most of society still lives a schedule-driven lifestyle and so it's often easier to agree to a pre-scheduled activity than do things in the moment. I still regularly agree to something scheduled way in advance because it doesn't feel real yet. I always regret it when the time finally comes. Getting better at it though!