It's a hard spot to be in, having a day job and trying to ship. Perhaps you need a week off from shipping (and the day job?); or perhaps you can reset expectations to 30 minutes before or after day job for shipping for a few months while focusing on de-stressing the day job? Sorry if this seems preachy... just some things that came to mind. I've been there and it's not fun.
It's a hard spot to be in, having a day job and trying to ship. Perhaps you need a week off from shipping (and the day job?); or perhaps you can reset expectations to 30 minutes before or after day job for shipping for a few months while focusing on de-stressing the day job? Sorry if this seems preachy... just some things that came to mind. I've been there and it's not fun.